NLP thoughts; Day 3

AS I sat here considering what to write in this blog update, I came across this quote from Muhammad Ali: "He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life."

This was a stumbling block in my life. I used to consider myself risk averse, not want to possibly lose everything, not wanting to be seen to fail. I also used to constrain myself with the values of other people that had been imprinted on me about people earning well must be doing something immoral. I think this has also been imprinted on my brother. He does earn really well (I think as an outcome of another value he has around being seen as an expert) however he puts lots of effort in hiding it and when he spends the guilt can be seen by the excuses he makes.

Yesterday was a step in breaking the chains I had placed on me. This was done using a language model used by Milton Erickson in his psychotherapy.  The model moves someone out of specific detail using language that becomes less specific, less detailed and more flexible and suggestive to allow more options to be considered and the inner self to create the most appropriate solution for the individual . Ericksonian language is very powerful in helping us understanding those parts of ourself that are in conflict  For example, I am good enough / I am not good enough, I trust myself / I don't trust myself, I believe in me / I don't beleive in me.  Using the Milton model and asking our inner selves what the highest positive intention is of the unwanted part and then the wanted part the highest possible intention will always be the SAME. Because our innerself always wants the best for us.  By getting the person to reflect on the sameness of the highest purpose of our parts and consider how the resources in both can help each other, we can integrate our parts.  Think how much energy we save being integrated. Think about how much time we can save by not having the conflict of parts inside us. Imagine how great the feeling when all your thoughts are focussed in the same direction.


Watch this video that shows it is worth taking risks.