Today has been a really revealing day.
I have followed the coaching manual, well I better had as a coach. I have described my work goals, as some one who looks for relationships between concepts my goals are BIG picture. This big picture is still quite abstract so, to make things real, I have painted a picture of the middle ground. A transition stage. The next big step. The goals are congruent with my meta programs (see earlier blog post). These indicate a preference for work that generates options, where I can get cracking with the work and work with people.
Today, did a bit of checking with my values. Values are our basis upon which all our beliefs and behaviours (meta programs) are built. We create our values from our life experiences. We gather these experiences and build our values unconsciously.
No matter how great we have written our goals are. If our the goals are not aligned to our values, the goals will not be achieved.
Ok. I dived into value analysis. This is a mixture of coaching techniques, creative linguistic to generate questions that kick away the subconscious minds and perseverance. What a roller coaster of emotion it was. And the dark things that crept out.
I have been focussing on anger, fear and frustration. Yea OK, I am moving away from these. But (that is an intended but), the unconscious mind does not process negatives and you get what you focus on.
This explains the belly of anger clouding my judgement, being frozen by fear - not making the best decisions and the frustration sapping my energy!
Well, I have made the first step. What I need to do is some serious flying on my time line and get ride of the emotions from key life memories and take the knowledge to learn from them instead. This is for part 2 in May.
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